• I’m done with Bridgerton

    I am a romantic. I love romance. I’m rooting for the heroine to find the love of her life. I’m a sucker for a happy ending. But a great love story doesn’t have to end in marriage. For me it’s all about the moment the lovers discover their feelings, trust them and risk everything to get what they want. Love. Consider Marguerite Duras’s novel The Lover, set in 1929 French Indochina. The movie adaptation (1992) has the most exquisite erotic scenes I can think of. The physical attraction, tenderness and passion between these lovers breaks all societal taboos. That’s part of…

  • Too bold, too big, too much

    Success is such an overcharged item. We’ve all heard about the fear of success as a reason success evades us. I wonder whether it’s not so much success we fear but the situation for which we find ourselves unprepared. What do you picture your success to look like? Is it the Oscar nomination or winning the Oscar? Is it getting the job or getting the job done? Is success something you create by yourself for yourself? Or is it gaining a position ahead of everyone else despite everyone else? Recently I had an intimate look at my relationship with success.…

  • False Beliefs, Fables, and Facts

    Language carries our wisdom but it also carries old thinking. We carry it around and we pull it out at times without giving it a second thought. What does it mean when you say let’s watch the sun set? What goes through your mind when you notice the earth’s rotation? How difficult is it to say Auf Wiedersehen to the sun as the earth rotates away and our day turns into night? We use phrases that originate from misguided thoughts expressing beliefs long proven wrong. These thoughts are deeply ingrained in our language and this prevents us from acknowledging new…

  • Got your ticket for Burning Man?

    If you have been to the Playa before you know what to do (the ten principles) and not to do. In other words, you know what to expect. You think. I was baptized in the dust bath of camp Animalia, the motto of last year. My first time to Burning Man. You know that 2023 was one of a kind. Right? First lesson I learned: Expect the unexpected. Better yet, don’t expect anything.  All the planning that goes into the biggest art fair in the world happens before you arrive. As soon as you touch the ground and commit to…

  • Deadline – Before and After

    Maybe it’s the word itself that evokes dread the closer we get? It’s some kind of hurdle that we prepare to jump as we are approaching. To make the jump we have to coordinate every moving part to time it right. But what happens after you take the hurdle? Turns out a deadline is more than a point in time. To jump the hurdle successfully, we need to prepare for the landing. Before the deadline I am overwhelmed by fear of failure. I fret over my material, reluctant to expose myself to outside judgement. As a deadline approaches, I worry…

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